I’m back from my trip.
Let me tell you-it was amazing!! So beautiful! So great! So incredibly special.
What a beautiful way to celebrate getting married, this truly was a wonderful honeymoon. I could go on and on about the trip, but I’ve got something else I’d like to talk about. Last blog post was all about prepping as a goth on vacation, now I’d like to talk about the reality of being a goth on vacation. It’s a lot sometimes. Not the clothes, the prep work, the makeup, that all comes with the territory. I’m talking about the stares, the murmurs, the non consenting photographs, the weird questions and the overall feeling of standing out. It can be a lot sometimes, and it can take a toll on the trip sometimes.
Now I’m used to the treatment that comes along with being a fat alternative woman. It’s so second nature that it doesn’t always resonate with me. Something about being out of the comfort zone of your usual surroundings makes you feel that much more exposed though. You’re ready for a peaceful vacation, but you feel the eyes. See the cameras. Get the weird questions. I felt like I was particularly standing out on our trip this time. The cruise we took was mostly an older or family crowd. Pretty standard “normal” looking folks, so we stood out quite a lot. People would easily remember us, start conversations. It was all fine and well most of the time. Being called unusual I think was the worst of the direct conversations. I felt more eyes on me though. More people speaking to themselves while looking over as a group. Fingers pointing. Weird looks of disapproval or outright stares. Then while traveling similar behavior. It comes with the territory I suppose, but it can still be a distraction. I preach all sorts of self love and embracing what makes you happy, which I gladly defend! Also making sure to take care of your mental health and dealing with the general public comes along with it. Taking breaks in my room help a lot. Walking away from conversations, and just trying not to take anything more than the beauty of my surroundings in helped as well.
Being both a larger woman and an alternative woman can be a lot for others to handle. As well as dealing with the general public and lack of style can be a lot for me. I guess I wanted to use this weeks blog post to vent about dealing with some of the lows that come with being a glamorous gothic being. Presenting myself as this confident figure online has incredibly helped my own self esteem, my creativity, my networking and my entire viewpoint on style. I’m human and I can get in my head as well and let it trip me up. But it doesn’t stop me from being myself. I dressed in black, had my tattoos out, my heavy makeup and just made sure I looked good for me, myself and I. Each and every day! Be fabulous, Etherial and Intimidating! At the end of each day you’re left with yourself. Everyone else who doesn’t like it can just deal with it. As a thank you for listening to my rant, please enjoy some of these photos of my outfits from our trip.
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